Breaking and Mending

A few years ago, I found myself in A&E.


I had never felt so ill. I was mentally and physically broken. So fractured, I hadn’t eaten properly or slept well, or even changed my expression for months. I sat in a cubicle, behind paper-thin curtains, listening to the rest of the hospital happen around me, and I shook with the effort of not crying. I was an inch away from defeat, from the acceptance of a failure I assumed would be inevitable, but I knew I had to carry on. I had to somehow walk through it.


Because I wasn’t the patient. I was the doctor.


Each time we visit a hospital we see them. An army of scrubs and stethoscopes, travelling the corridors with a quiet confidence. We imagine, strangely, that they are invincible. That somehow, knowing the mechanism of mental and physical disease prevents them from contracting it. But for some, a stethoscope is less of a protective talisman, and more of a risk factor, and each time I read that another junior doctor has disappeared from their life, it takes my breath. Because that could be anyone. You. Me. All of us.


The problem with becoming a doctor, is that one minute you are sitting in a lecture theatre, drawing a carefully shaded diagram of the inguinal canal, and the next, you are alone on a ward with the weight of a new identity pressing down on your shoulders. A door slams behind you, and you are suddenly expected to become someone else. Unlike most professions you acquire a different title, and along with that title, society assumes that you will also acquire certain characteristics. You will be calm. You will overflow with self-belief. You will be able to witness the worst kinds of misery and death and loss on an hourly basis, and walk away from it all, unaffected. You will work within a system which is so underfunded, so over-burdened, that each day you will see choices made and battles lost, and an unfairness played out on a stage right in front of your eyes, and yet you will not question it. Medical school cannot prepare you for this, despite its role-play and its acronyms, and its willingness to help. Medical school fills you with knowledge (knowledge you worry is leaking from your brain as each day passes). Medical school does not fill you with an ability to survive.


Many people glide from university and into the waters of foundation training without a backward glance. I was not one of those people. In general medicine, before I found the joy and relief of psychiatry, I was someone who floundered. I was too absorbent. Too unsure of myself and how to process what was happening in front of me. I opted for poor coping strategies. I became physically unwell. I became so physically unwell, I was sent for urgent investigations, only to be told it was ‘just stress’ (yes, stress really does continue to have ‘just’ put in front of it). I became mentally unwell, and it’s only when I look back, I realise just how unwell I was. I paced. I agonised. I pulled into my drive at the end of a shift, whispering an uncertain dialogue to myself, and wondered why I couldn’t remember the journey home. Each evening, I replayed every moment of my day, over and over, until I knew every tiny detail of every scene I had been involved with. I felt incapable. A failure. I studied all the doctors around me, who seemingly floated through their foundation years, and I wondered why the wind seemed to catch everyone’s sails except my own.


I felt unsupported. I felt very alone. I’m certain there are wonderful safety nets in place all over the NHS, but I failed to find one. On the rare occasion I was met with a clipboard and a series of questions about my welfare, it appeared scripted and predictable. Faced with a consultant I barely knew, it was so very much easier to stay silent, rather than to admit my perceived inadequacies. To have the privilege of all that training, all that money and time and attention, and then to admit to a stranger you are a mess and feel overwhelmed … it seemed almost obscene.

I’m absolutely fine, thank you.


It was much simpler to stay quiet. But the only problem with staying quiet, is that no one can reach out and catch you if you don’t tell them you’re falling.


There was a photograph in the news last week, of a Chinese surgeon asleep on a tiled floor, still fully gowned, having worked a twenty-eight hour shift. ‘Isn’t he amazing?’ people said. ‘Isn’t he a hero?’ I think, perhaps, it is even more heroic to admit you are unable to accept the attributes society wants so very much to bestow upon you. I think it’s even more heroic to find the courage to stand up and explain to the world that no one should ever – ever – have to carry the burden of heroism.

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(photograph: The Independent)


As I walked the hospital corridors, punctured with self-doubt, I knew if I refused to ask for help, I would have to find a way through for myself. And so I saved up my annual leave, very carefully, and I took two weeks off. And in those two weeks, I did what I love doing the most. I read. I did nothing but read. From the minute I woke, to the minute I went to bed. Thrillers, classics, poetry. Plays, autobiographies, essays. I filled my mind with other peoples’ words and thoughts, as many as I could, and at the end of those fourteen days, I had read sixteen books.


And it mended me.


Because words really do have the power to mend people.


Even though I had to go back, back to the misery and the suffering and the endless, unforgiving hours, after those two weeks I felt different and more determined, because now I had all those stories inside me, keeping me strong. The same stories which, for those two weeks, allowed me to escape myself. And for the first time in my life, I started to write. Because experiencing all that taught me the power of creative expression. It taught me that words (and music and art) mend us in a way nothing else ever can. They allow us to see the world through different eyes. To find a new perspective. To escape our lives when everywhere around us, there seems to be an absence of doors.


I was very cautious about writing this blog post. Not because of the window into my own life, but because I don’t want to deter anyone who might be reading this and who wants to study medicine. I need to explain to you that I would do it all again, even the darkest moments, every last bit, because it taught me so much – about myself and about the world, and about other people. I honestly think it made me a better doctor and (I hope) a better writer.


Before I was published, I would talk to authors and be slightly star-struck, and I would tell them how very much I admired what they did. More often than not, the reply would be, ‘yes, but I’m just a writer. You’re a doctor. You’re far more important than me because you save patients.’


And I wanted to say, ‘but you write the words that save the doctors who save the patients.’


I don’t think I ever told them, so I am telling them now.


Because I think out of all the lessons I learned on that journey, this is the most important one of all.


The reminder that everyone breaks.


The reminder that everyone – absolutely everyone – has the power to mend people.


And the people who break and the people who mend others are almost impossible to spot.


Because I have learned they are not always the first people you might expect.



Under the pressure that comes with being a doctor or a medical student, it is vital to remember you’re not alone: BMA 24/7 counselling service


Edit: just for clarification, I never felt stressed in psychiatry. Not once. Not ever. If you are a medical student, and you love people – truly love people (as you may have said in your interview), then do think about psychiatry.


  1. Rickster
    April 10, 2017 / 2:00 pm

    Joanna, I’ve been reading your posts for some time. I’ve read them all, actually. I’m certainly not one to ever read a novel, but your posts inspired me to want to try “The Trouble With Goats and Sheep”. I couldn’t put it down. I binge read the last several chapters late into the night. I lent it to a friend who loved it so much she’s sharing it with her book club. You are most definitely a writer.

    • April 10, 2017 / 6:52 pm

      I’m so happy to hear you enjoyed it, thank you so much!

  2. juliathorley
    April 10, 2017 / 2:22 pm

    Thank you for this post. You are amazing. x

    • April 10, 2017 / 6:53 pm

      I’m really not, but thank you, Julia. You are very lovely x

  3. Ann Tatum
    April 10, 2017 / 2:53 pm

    I love your writing. There were phrases and paragraphs in “The Trouble with Goats and Sheep” that we just so beautiful by themselves. I am in awe of your writing.

  4. Richard
    April 10, 2017 / 2:59 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. Agreed totally with the idea that those that break and those that mend are hard to tell apart.. ..and maybe can be both.
    Found you on a Twitter coincidence, read about Goats and sheep… this blog. Love your writings….they have the power to make me smile and then choke back tears. Thanks for putting this out there x

    • April 10, 2017 / 6:53 pm

      They can definitely be both! And you are so very welcome x

  5. Susan
    April 10, 2017 / 5:57 pm

    I’m so saddened but so thankful for the fractured days, weeks and months you endured for without those bad times the enlightened Jo, the symphonic wordsmith Jo and the beautifully human Jo would be shut away from us all. Your words resonate far and wide to so many.
    Much food for thought on so many levels of this blog, my mind will be filled with reflection.

    • April 10, 2017 / 6:54 pm

      Everything certainly happens with a very good reason … thank you!

  6. Anna Shore
    April 10, 2017 / 7:18 pm

    I feel lucky that in my place of work they do help people who break, this is how I would describe it. Some times you come up against a wall and it may be that someone reaches over the wall to pull you over it and it is still hard to climb , and then there are the people who join you on your side and putting a hand under your foot they give you a boost up so you can get over more gently.
    I do my best to be gentle .

  7. Alison Miller
    April 10, 2017 / 7:36 pm

    Thank you for your honesty. It really does not come naturally to most of us to be honest about our brokenness. It makes us feel vulnerable and weak and all sorts of other things that we don’t like feeling. But I do believe that honesty is key…not that I always practice what I preach or that I havn’t had years of therapy to get me to this point!! We are ALL broken. We are ALL vulnerable. So standing shoulder to shoulder and leaning on one another is the best way forward. Thanks again Joanna.

  8. Sally
    April 10, 2017 / 8:00 pm

    Very moving, thank you for sharing and opening my mind to the reality of being a doctor

  9. Margaret
    April 10, 2017 / 9:50 pm

    Joanna, really enjoyed reading the above blog. I know what you are talking about I am a retired registered Nurse, and understand all the second guessing that you have gone through as I have done it myself. Thank you for being open and honest, i am sure you are a brilliant Doctor, and a brilliant writer. just bought your book the trouble with sheep & goats on my kindle. Ironically i am sat here in a leg cast after a tumble while camping, spiral non displaced fracture of my right fibula, so lots of time to read.

  10. April 11, 2017 / 8:36 am

    Beautiful post. We do, indeed, break and mend on a regular basis, and understanding and compassion is paramount to survival.
    Thank you for your words that may help someone else reach out when they need to.

  11. April 11, 2017 / 9:11 pm

    Beautifully written.

    As a fellow doctor-writer, I read compulsively during med school too. One of my classmates said, “Are all those books yours?” I said, “Yep.”

    I always come back to my favourite Dead Poet’s Society’s quote: “And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for.”

    Emergency medicine can be good, because although it is stressful, you sign out after your shifts and you’re basically done. However, you have to be able to work nights and weekends.

    I agree that we can admire the surgeon who worked 28 hours straight, but we also need to ask, “Why would any human being want to work 28 hours straight, let alone when you literally hold someone else’s life in your hands?”

    Thanks to my friend Pierre L’Allier for sharing this, and congratulations to you for connecting with patients and now readers with your prose and your vision.

  12. April 11, 2017 / 9:28 pm

    This is a wonderful and honest post and so important at this time when the NHS is under so much stress. I would like to add something re your edit at the end, however. I do have a very close and loving friend who was a wonderful psychiatrist and was under terrible stress and became very ill , as you did in A & E, so I am really glad you didn’t experience the equivalent stress as a psychiatrist but I think it is important to recognise that this area of medicine is also somewhere where sensitive and loving people can suffer. Psychiatry is drastically underfunded at the moment and a very difficult place to work for many. I saw my friend break down and I will never forget it. The things you say about people not feeling they have to be heroes are exactly right. Many congratulations on your huge success with your writing and for all future books, and for sharing your experience of stress as a doctor – it is so important for us all to know when we talk about the NHS.

  13. April 20, 2017 / 6:58 pm

    I’m hoping to become a doctor in the future but have been anxious about the long hours and stress. However after reading this beautiful post you have inspired me to keep going. I hope you continue to be happy in your career ☺️

  14. Grahame
    November 30, 2017 / 2:02 pm

    Lovely Joanna,

    You never fail to inspire with your kindness and open thoughts.

    Since I left twitter in August I often return here to see how things are shaping up for you. We had some fun conversations in the past and it always sticks in my mind that you never lost your ability to see through and into the next occasion.
    Seth has a very lucky companion.

    Whatever you do in life always have that open outlook, there are no special solutions to the problems we all face but that open optimism. I’m sure, will see you through.

    Best Regards

    Grahame (Cincinnatus_L) (A_Kind_Of)

    • joannacannon
      December 18, 2017 / 10:30 am

      Ahh, I have only just seen this – I’m so sorry! We did have some fun conversations in the past, perhaps you will return to Twitter one day? Hope everything is going well (Seth says hello and thanks for all the support 😉 )

  15. Grahame
    December 23, 2017 / 12:46 pm

    All is well.
    Twitter had become a different place, the source of some fun became the great devouring clock monster.
    I miss some of the people but it’s indulgence was habit.
    Freedom from its revolving door has allowed work to progress at a remarkable rate and ‘real’ people have become paramount.
    I saw you took a break, good for you.
    Maybe you will leave permanently at some point, I can only promote the thought that it feels liberating and satisfying.

    Shakespeare knew all about time !

    “Like as the waves make towards the pebbl’d shore,
    So do our minutes hasten to their end;
    Each changing place with that which goes before”

    Anyway, I’ve taken too much of your time already.

    Stay true to yourself, retain integrity.
    That’s all we can do.

    G 😃

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